I almost felt guilty that I could have such a comfort when my friend Joany doesn't even have a home to go home to. Was it right that I was surrounded by my children and my grandchildren as they were making caramel apples? Was it right that we were smiling and laughing together as a family?
I have come to know that life is fragile. Things can change in a very short time. Kristen has taught me to live each and every day to the fullest, because none of us know when it might be out last, or the last one of someone we love. Every single day should be treated as the last day. I am sure that when my day comes and I look back on my life, it isn't going to be the material things that I wish I had more of. I'm not going to wish I had spent more time at the office or at the salon pampering myself. It is times spent with those I love and care about that are going to have the most meaning. I believe we are here to serve others and to serve God. Everything else is secondary. I know that love, compassion, kindness and memories lasts forever. Those are the things we will take with us into the next life. I believe with my whole heart that the tragic death of both Brad and Carly were not in vain. I believe that both their lives and their deaths can teach us great truths and help us all to try harder to be better people.
Eric Lund had leukemia. He had courage and humor that sustained him through the painful months of his illness. When he was laying near death in a hospital in New York, he saw the despair and anguish on his mothers face. He then said something very beautiful and powerful.
"Mom, walk in the world for me."
What he was really saying to his mother was this:
"Mother, I don't want my death to diminish your life.
I want you to live better and love deeper because I was here."
(taken from Grieving by Deanna Edwards)
That is what I believe we can all learn from the death of Brad, of Carly and of Kristen.
Lets all do whatever we can do for the George family. I do have an address where cards can be sent. e-mail me if you need the address.
Go out and make some memories with those you love and always remember,
Love lasts forever.